I have been reading your blog for over a year but don't usually comment. I currently have plenty of time and would love to help you input recipes! Email me at #### and we can work something out =)
October 31, 2011 4:20 PM
Melissa you are a doll for offering. Thank you so much. When I get my act together I will email you. I found out two days ago that the deadline for Christmas was a few weeks back-- so I am sort of unmotivated right now. If we wait until end of January there is great discount coupon that will apply-- and with it only being November, I feel like we have a little bit of time. Thanks again.
Thanks for the digests--I enjoy seeing how you respond to and interact with your readers.
I just have a quick question--back in Sept.(I believe)--you started to have an individual post about one of the kids---So that we could get to know them a little better. Anyway I think you did about 7 or so of them and then there hasn't been anymore. --I was wondering if you are planning on doing a post on each of the others?
October 31, 2011 8:56 PM
Debra, thanks for the reminder. I completely forgot. :) I will work on doing a post for the rest of the kids.
Oh, I didn't know you were doing another one of these! If I had, I would have asked this question sooner: Caleb and Rachel are basically the same age, correct? I'm curious why you seem far more concerned about his relationship with the girl from church than Rachel's relationship with Sasha. You emphasize how important it is for Caleb to take things slow (which is true for any 15-year-old), but you seem content and even happy with Rachel's intention to marry Sasha.
Please don't take this the wrong way, I'm just curious what the difference is. If there are things about Caleb's situation that you don't want to share on the blog, that's totally understandable. I apologize in advance for asking about things that are none of my business.
November 3, 2011 12:35 PM
I didn't take this the wrong way. In fact, when I read this, I thought that perhaps if you felt this way then others must too-- so I am happy to clarify. For starters you are right in that I am a bit more concerned with Caleb's relationship than with Rachel's simply because an ocean separates Rachel and Sasha but not Caleb and his girlfriend. I don't have much to be concerned with if their only contact is by email--- which Rachel often invites me to read. Secondly, Rachel is older. Thirdly, Caleb and his girlfriend have already had their very first kiss-- so you better believe I am encouraging them to go more slowly!
Tiger & Kar said...
Hi Christine! I've followed your blog since Dennis joined your family but it's been a loooong time since I've commented. I'm curious about the curriculum from your charter school. I'd love to know how you're able to get the materials they discard. I, too, am considering homeschooling my 4 y.o. son (adopted from Russia!), and would love to hear more about this.
thanks and hugs!
November 4, 2011 10:06 AM
The curriculum that they discard is in a giveaway pile that I sort through every week. By the way the pile continues to grow with the same stuff there week after week, I think I am one of just a very few that take advantage of this. If you have specific questions, feel free to ask.
Next time, get a big bag of candy to use as bets, then everyone gets to eat what they win and nobody loses anything really important! (that's what we used to do!)
November 4, 2011 8:02 PM
Wendy-- when the girls read this-- they loved the idea! Thanks!
Funny thing with movie violence: we read the Bible, that has genocide, rape, incest, horroristic visions... yet we censor movies. I wonder why we work like that.
November 5, 2011 3:17 AM
Hevel, reading something where you can only visual things to a certain extent verses seeing a movie that allows you to see something acted out in its entirety is a big difference. I know this because before I ever saw The Passion of the Christ I had never fully envisioned the excruciating torture that Christ endured just by reading the Bible. I truly didn't get the suffering He endured on our behalf until I watched the movie and even then I had to stop watching before the movie finished because it was too much. Yet-- I could read all of the Four Gospels and be okay. I work the way I work... parent the way I parent, as a direct result of my own life experiences.
I certainly don't blame you for not letting your kids watch The Color Purple. While it certainly has an impact, I don't think it is necessary for younger children. It is also an excellent book, but again, probably not appropriate for young kids.
I don't know of many movies, as an Australian, African American history is not my strong point. There are many points of reference with Aboriginal Australian history, for which I would recommend "Rabbit Proof Fence". That movie is shown in many classrooms here in Australia, usually to children around 12. It is not in any way overly explicit or violent, but it is fairly honest.
Have you or any of your children read Chains by Laurie Halse Anderson? I read it to Oksana and while I did have to explain a few things, she managed quite well. (She's almost 10)
On the oatmeal issue, I agree with your reaction, if the others were clearly waiting, however, perhaps like most young children she didn't pay attention and didn't join the dots? I'm still prone to doing that somethimes, despite my best efforts. Regardless I think you did a great job of reinforcing good behaviour (consideration of others).
November 5, 2011 6:37 AM
Thank you for the suggestions. As to the oatmeal incident, all of my girls are teens (Galina will be next week) not young children like Alex, Dennis, or even Paul. It is routine to heat our water for instant oatmeal or hot cocoa in the kettle. This helps maintain order in the kitchen so that everyone isn't fighting over the microwaves. Thanks for the positive comment on the oatmeal incident-- you are one of the very few.
Try Amazing Grace! Absolutely fantastic movie. It is about the slave trade in England. Not exactly USA, but shows a lot about what whites and blacks were thinking, the fight to stop it, and some great God moments. SOOOO good! All my kids have seen it.
November 5, 2011 6:59 AM
We have that movie and yes it is great! I was just hoping to find another movie to watch.
Juat curious at why you coudn't share with them that you had read a review that deemed it inappropriate for the family..i was jumping out of my seat when you. said you were going to let the kids watch it..i thought "wow that's suprising" I have never seen the whole thing. but know it is full of all sorts of awful inappropriate stuff that is not good to watch on the screen let alone be told about until certain ages.
My kids are super young, but they know if a G movie is on and I see or hear anything I will shut it off.My six yr old usually beats me to it yelling "inappropriate"..There was a pop up add for a diet pill and a lady was in a bikini and he sceamed "inappropriate..naked lady" I freiked thinking he got onto a site by accident...but it was just something that in out family would be considered "imodest"
November 5, 2011 7:14 AM
I guess I didn't clarify in my original post-- I did explain to them that after reading numerous reviews I felt it was inappropriate for them to watch. After watching "Courageous" tonight I can clearly see that not all PG-13 movies are alike and as parents we really bear the responsibility of pre-screening or doing our homework on all movies that our kids are going to watch.
I don't understand what you found so offensive and wrong with one of your children using the microwave to prepare a snack.
If thd child in question had grabbed the kettle off the stove, or jumped the line or began to whine, then i can certainly see a problem.
However, your child saw that people were standing about, she was hungry. She saw that the microwave was free and so she used it to make her own snack.
Frankly, it shows initiative,intelligence and creativity.
It's not lack of patience or rudeness. She never pushed or denied anyone. She didn't cut a line or complain. She saw that she could make her snack. She did.
It's strange that you would feel it necessary for her to stand about and "wait" when she found a way to prepare her snack.
The others decided to stand about. They decided not to use both the microwave and the kettle.
If everyone had been using the microwave, and she grabbed the kettle...it would be the same.
Would you get angry at that too?
She didn't "wait" because their was a way for her to make her meal. She saw that opportunity and took it.
The fact that your other children didn't think to use the microwave too is not her fault.
She shouldn't be taken to task because she saw a way to have her food. That the others didn't think of the same thing. They got mad because they didn't think of it. She shouldn't be punished because your other children didn't think of the same thing.
Perhaps she didn't see everyone waiting. Perhaps she did. That doesn't matter. Lying about it? That does matter...but i find it odd that you think you are always right.
November 5, 2011 11:52 AM
Reggie, to be honest at first I was defensive when I read your comment, but then I realized that you just don't understand the way we parent. As a large family we have our own ways to ensure that life runs smoothly and that our kids learn to be patient, kind, other oriented, helpful, and respectful of rules. That includes kitchen rules which all of my "teen" girls are aware of. You may use a microwave to heat up water in your home, but when ten or more kids are trying to do that-- it just doesn't work so hot water is heated in a big kettle on the stove. This ensures that no one pushes to get their cup in first, and that everyone can enjoy their cup of hot cocoa or bowl of oatmeal around the same time-- thus encouraging family togetherness. That is a priority for us-- more so than allowing a child to be rude or inconsiderate just in the name of hunger-- which by the way none of my kids have ever truly felt since being in our family. I don't expect you to get it, and I share what I share half expecting to be berated by people like you-- but I do it in hopes that someone might be encouraged by my sharing. As to showing initiative, I encourage that by suggesting that before they start eating they take the initiative to see that everyone has a napkin, or that everyone has something to drink. As to showing intelligence-- I can think of so many other ways to show that quality off! As to showing creativity-- I think it is sad to chalk up an incident like finding a way to get around a family rule as creative. Creative is stirring peanut butter into your oatmeal, or choosing to eat it with chop sticks, or drinking it in a mug. Now that's creative!
P.S. Sorry to the rest of you who didn't even get their mean ol' rude comments published.