Please understand that I'm am not judging your choices at all but I am coming from a practical standpoint. I have noticed several of your girls are named some thing with Anna involved. What was your reasoning on not picking something different? Doesn't you trip over them and call them the wrong thing? I have seven and I call them the wrong name and they are no where near alike so I am just wondering about that aspect of your life.
January 21, 2011 3:59 PM
Great question. Who would have thought that we would end up with an Anna, Annalyn, and Anastasia. It just turned out that way. See.... we have not changed any of our kids' names when they joined our family-- well let me take that back. We did change Anna Lynn to Annalyn because we did already have Anna and we changed Alosha to Alex, and Pasha to Paul, and Nastia to Anastasia but that was just changing their names to the English translation so we don't really count that. You can read more about why we didn't change their names here. But to clarify a bit, Anna is pronounced Anya and why we didn't spell it that way--well that is all my fault because I read her Russian name wrong and once I figured it out, it was too late in my opinionto change it. And to be honest, I trip up on all my kids' names even Paul's and Caleb's-- always have, always will. And it drives me nuts that I do it because it reminds me of my favorite Aunt Tanya who always called me my Mom's name by accident. Boy did I tease her about that when I was younger-- so now it's my turn. :)
Sara P. said...
Hi Christine, I have a few questions:1. How did your kids react to your decision to home school? Now that you've done it for a few weeks, how do they feel?2. Are their special friendships between certain sets of siblings? 3. You have several teens already and are the brink of having many more. Any special rules about dating driving, etc.?I enjoy your blog!
January 21, 2011 4:18 PM
Our family has embraced homeschooling much more than I thought they would. We are involved with an amazing charter school-- and I know that makes all the difference. Today I took Sveta for her first RSP/Speech session and visited the Resource Center. I could have spent hours and ended up walking away with three armloads of curriculum and books. Tonight the kids began their new art class which is a part of the charter school too as was the horseback riding-- two things we would have never done if they were in public school.
As for special friendships between siblings-- of course they pair up. Thankfully though they all get along too. Usually who the kids share rooms with are the ones they are really close with so I try to mix up the rooms on occasion.
Since I haven't changed much, you can read about my thoughts on dating here, and here, and here. I will say that the topic comes up often and my girls are always asking about when I started dating. I am honest with them although I have not shared everything because I think they are still too young-- but I will. And as I share I remind them how I wish I could go back and do somethings differently but that I can't live in the past-- so I encourage and teach and pray that they will make better choices as they grow up. Thanks to my friend Beth, soon I hope to go away for a weekend with a few of my girls to do this with them.
And lastly-- driving. Oh boy-- I didn't see that one coming. Adam already has his learner's permit and should be driving himself around this summer. Had he not had good grades, a respectful attitude, and shown a good deal of responsibility he would not be. Just because he got to start at 15 1/2 doesn't mean that all of my other kids will-- because they won't. There are just too many factors to consider when making such a big decision-- and not every child is the same. Most likely, Sveta will not drive at any point in her life-- but that's okay.
how do you make time to spend with each child individually?
January 21, 2011 9:22 PM
To be honest, that is hard to do all the time. And yet, I don't think they are suffering because if and when I feel they need the individual attention-- they get it. It might be a trip to the store with me, or a walk to the mail box, or reading a book, or wrapping presents, or braiding hair, or baking a cake, or giving the dogs a bath, or sleeping together. It just depends. Now with homeschooling, the kids are getting lots of extra attention that they were not getting before. The other night I had some quality time with Andrew, Jonny, Galina, Anna, and Rachel. I was in incredible pain and they took care of me. Yes you read right. The tables were turned and my kids took care of me. Galina and Rachel brought me warm water and Ibuprofen, and all the kids took turns cuddling with me and my heating pad. One of them even massaged my feet. It was good for Galina to see me at a vulnerable time. When it was bedtime and they each saw that I was near tears in pain, they asked if they could sleep on the floor next to our bed. So yes, I had the five of them plus Alex and Dennis sleep in my room-- and they all thought it was special.
I don't mean this in an offensive way, but I am really curious how you guys afford all this??? I believe you are a SAHM? And your husband is the sole provider? Do you guys ever worry about money??
January 21, 2011 10:54 PM
I worry about money-- my husband doesn't. Not so much anymore because I am learning to trust God more and not feel like I have to control everything, but it is not always easy. My husband does have a very good job, which is a huge blessing, and I try hard to manage it well. Over the years we have both changed so much how we do things-- and tithing, that is a big part too. I wish I could say more on the topic of money but really, we just include God in all that we do with it. Often times I wonder, "Why do we have so much while others have so little?" I believe that we have to do more than just wonder-- and actually help those who have little. At the same time, I am still learning what that looks like.
Tonight my kids had their first art class. Look at what they drew! I happened to sit next to Sveta and Anastasia-- the other kids wanted you to know. :)