The weekend came and went way too fast. We visited with my Mom, had dinner at my in-laws house, and watched the movie Nell. Oh how I enjoyed that movie. I wish I could leave it at that but then I would not be entirely honest. This weekend was a hard one with one particular daughter and at times I really felt that she might not ever listen to reason. It felt like I was hitting my head against a brick wall. It wasn't until later this afternoon that I finally got through to her. I wish I was brave enough to share because the story is awesome and reflecting back on it I am filled with hope all over again. Still we have a long way to go to mend what has been broken but I know that we came out of this situation stronger than when we went in.
After writing more about this situation, I decided to hold off posting it for now. I am in a quandary as to whether or not sharing will encourage others or if sharing will make others feel guilty. Honestly, I don't know the right answer-- I just know what is right for our family.
Hope you all had a good weekend.
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Hi Christine
I've just caught up on your blog posts I've missed! Firstly I'm so excited that you will be home schooling your boys - it is a challenge, but we really feel that it is one of the best decisions we made for our children. We are also attached to a distance ed school (which I assume is similair to the charter schools you mentioned).
I'm so pleased Dennis is going so well. It's been wonderful watching him bloom since you bought him home - you are a wonderful mother & I love the way you give glory to God!
I hope all goes well with this up coming move & am praying for your house to sell.
Have a lovely day
Renata:)
OH CHristine, I am sorry to hear that..I have a 9.5 yr old and I also feel like lately we are butting heads....: (
Hugs and I am glad atleast things were better in the end...we can all learn from each other...
HUgs...
OH CHristine, I am sorry to hear that..I have a 9.5 yr old and I also feel like lately we are butting heads....: (
Hugs and I am glad atleast things were better in the end...we can all learn from each other...
HUgs...
Maybe post about it on your yahoo group!
I'm glad things are working out Christine. As for either encouraging other Mom's or making us feel guilty - if it's teenage girls, we probably already all feel guilty about something. I have some hard things going on with my 17 yo. What to do when you think she's been understanding everything for years and has embraced our values when in reality she's been extremely manipulating and doesn't have a clue what she believes (throw a new, scary, dx of borderline personality dsorder into the mix just for fun!). I believe she's gotten so good at parroting and imitating others behaviors that it's hard to really know what's her anymore. We have had so many marathon sessions of trying to reason and explain things to her that I'm utterly exhausted just thinking about it. Do I sound like I need encouragement here? lol - one day, one hour, one minute at a time.....
Christine, as your children are getting older, it is a quandry sometimes as to what we can or cannot share. Have you thought about writing a post together?
Your sharing can help somebody.
I always explain that to my girlies.
If I write this, it will help somebody. Is it ok? If they say yes, I proceed. They have not said no yet.
But, soon, as they are 11, 11 1/2 and 12, I will be including them if writing about a particular situation to write the post.....
So glad your weekend was mostly good.
I remember the Movie Nell. Wasn't that with Jodie Foster?
Sometimes it's a step forward and a half mile back. I had that kind of week with two of them!
Pray about it.
If in doubt, don't share. Better to be safe than sorry.
I vote for keeping it off the blog as it's personal.
You know what, kids react so diffeently to many things. please post because it had such a positive outcome people can learn.
My DS went to take a bath last night. Well at the age of 9 he went into full temper tantrum mode. So I handle him like a 2 year old and just did everything for him. Once he got in the tub (mind you struggling) he said "I don't want to go to school." It wasn't the bath he hated, the bath represented that he had to go to school.... (we had another chat)
The adoptive mother in me wants to know! BUT...the adoptee in me knows how hurtful it is to have things shared on blogs that are between a mum and her girl. It seems more priority is to be given your children, not the bloggy world. On the other hand, if she doesn't care that you share it, I wouldn't think it matters but I think love takes into concern her feelings over your desires and our "need to know." Well, that's just my opinion. I'm sure enjoying your blog, no matter what you write about! Blessings, Jennifer
P.S. About the sharing thing-- well I think most of you misundersntad why I was hesitant to share. I know that how I share would be okay with my daughter-- it was just my anticipation of how readers of this blog would take it. For some my sharing would be encouragment, for others it would be a slap in the face. I am not sure I feel up to hearing how I have "rubbed" it in because that is not my intent at all.
Just remember Christine- we're a tough bunch ;)
Christine,
It does not matter what you write there is always going to be someone that will not like it in some way.
My advice is if you think it could help even one person then share it.
For the others that it is a slap in the face, well some of them might really need that slap in the face. You really never know when having that slap can really help someone in more ways than one.
As you know there are a lot of people on here that love you as a dear friend and the stories you share about your kids whether if be good or discipline problems can help others. I know for a fact that it has helped me in lots of ways. There have been times that I have been at my wits end and then I remember a post you have shared and how you dealt with it and have tried it as well. With Teenagers today it is hard to know how to react, respond, or discipline. I know how my parents would have reacted and what would have happened but that does not always work today. LOL!!
Now if only we could get you to share some recipes. LOL!!
Love,
Susie
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