I was getting lonely. I was in need of some good girlfriend talk. It felt like it had been decades since I talked to my longtime friend Denise. I knew she would be busy with homeschooling, but I punched in her number anyway and thought I would give her a good morning wake up call. She agreed that it had been way too long since we had last talked-- so we spent a good half hour catching up. As the conversation went on, I could feel myself returning to normal. It is not that I don't have anyone to talk to-- but sometimes I just need a good woman friend to talk to-- one who understands me--- one who knows my kids so well that I can share anything with her and vice versa. What I love most about her is that she accepts me for who I am--- 12 kids and all.
Friends like that don't happen very often and we were both remarking how lonely we feel during the week when we don't talk. Sure we both have our kids, husbands and daily lives to attend to--- but for the most part her and I only have each other. And it gets lonely sometimes.
Am I the only who feels this way?
I realized that I missed Denise more than just a phone calls worth and it got me to thinking back to the women's weekend we spent together out at the beach a few years back. It was so much fun! A dozen of us headed to the coast for the weekend, rented a house, and spent some quality time together as sisters in Christ. I remember how I convinced her and the other women to make a pretend mole under their nose-- just like me. Then, we all went shopping sporting identical Cindy Crawford moles. It was hilarious. You should have seen the cashier's expression when she helped all of us ring up our purchases. It could've been a Candid Camera moment! I don't know which was funner... that, karaokying, or doing the Chinese FireDrill in downtown Pismo Beach!
Just thinking about it makes me smile!
Oh, how I would love to do something like that again.
Wouldn't you?
Someday.....
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Yes, I need that girlfriend time right about now! Were you serious when you asked me earlier this year about doing a women's retreat/get together? I would love it! Much love to you.
Someone else wrote a post about friendship this week, making me realize more fully than ever before that I really don't have any real-life friends. "Friends" yes....as in a whole LOT of people that I am "friendly" with. I suppose I even have quite a few people that I can "count on" who would drop everything to help me. But, since we adopted, somehow I have become slightly estranged from the people that previously were "bosom buddies". We've just grown apart. It might have happened anyway, as they became enmeshed in their children's college trials, new jobs (when they were previously homeschooling or stay at home moms).... It makes me feel really sad that the only people I can really connect with are on-line. That does not seem healthy, somehow, but amongst my IRL acquaintance there is no one I can really share everything with...in part just to protect my children's privacy. Does that make sense?
Oh yes - I can totally relate. It seems with moving & then starting home schooling that it gets longer & longer between phone calls to good friends for me. It's amazing how a nice girly chat can make you feel so much better.
You sound like such fun to go out with - i'm giggling at that mole episode!
Have a nice day
Renata :)
It's very important to have good girlfriends in one's life. It's a very different relationship than with a spouse or kids.
what a wonderful friend! - time at the beach with a bunch of friends wearing matching moles sounds like a BLAST! what a great memory!
blessings!
I too, find it comforting to have a girlfriend that really knows me and accepts me. No matter what. I have been having a lonely season but I think that I have done it to myself. Its hard getting out. I am rejoicing for you, that she was able to pick up the phone and pick up where you left off......
DEFINITELY LONELY! We live and work in the country at a Christian Camp. We live on our Island of no one around. Our church is 45 min away....and we feel lonely ALL the time! It is one of the hardest things ever. Especially when you are going through really hard times. I think being alone has really affected us both. We have each other, and our beautiful crew, but other adults who understand........that would be our dream!!!!
Shari, I am serious. I think I could manage getting away for one weekend. What about the drive-- where would the split be?
Thank you so much for dropping by my blog this morning. I love the fellowship the internet has provided! Thank you so much for the prayer. It was fun to pop over and find out you have 12 children. What a wonderfully full heart and home you must have! Blessings to you, friend!
I totally know what you mean. God intends for us girls to have our girlfriends. We need each other! (((HUGS)))
I have a best friend. We met in Sunday School twenty one years ago. We both just had new babies, and needed to lose weight. So we joined WW together. After each meeting we would go to Maria Callenders, and pig out and get to know each other better. Her husband traveled a lot, and we became real close. Then she moved away. That was 18 years ago. I get lonely for her, and have never found a friend to compare. I have lots of friends.
But none like Shanna. Everyone thinks we are sisters. She will call me some days, and say. "OK grab your cup of coffee, find a quiet corner, and lets catch up." She is finished homeschooling. Her boys are grown, but we still connect. I still have three more homeschoolers. Elementary, mid high, and High. Shanna says "A real friend is someone who if you stopped being friends you would have to kill them cause they know too much." We have shared so much. Shanna teaches me about the love and forgiveness, and sacrifice of our Lord. By her actions. I am glad that she is still my friend. I have always wished I were as good a friend as she is. I just can't sit still long enough to pick up that phone and dial it. BTW... Each year, between our birthdays. We get together, here or there, or somewhere affordable, and spend a long weekend just the two of us. My weekend starts on the 24th of March. I can't wait.
My "Denise's" name is Rona. What a blessing to have a girlfriend like that. We get away for one weekend a year (at least) and eat and laugh the entire time. We talk several times a week and it really is a blessing. I pray every woman can find such a friend.
I totally agree. It takes discipline to stay in touch with friends. Most of mine are on facebook but I need to make more of an effort to contact one of my closest friends who hates facebook. If is an effort but a necessary one! I need her and she needs me.
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