Friday, March 26, 2010

Digest 16

Elizabeth G has left a new comment on your post "Making the Best Choice for Him":
I was catching up on you blog and have to say I was a bit surprised to see this. Not the thought of kindergarten, but acting against something John feels is right. If you and your husband are divided on this, pray more, seek God's counsel, if you still disagree, I humbly suggest you follow your husband. If he is right or wrong, perhaps God would teaching him something through your submission. It's not a dirty word, Christ was submissive to the Father. There is grace and protection in following God's order for the family.
In Christ,
Elizabeth

Elizabeth, I must admit that it took a while for me to decide whether or not I would post this comment. I am not sure why. Maybe because I never really thought of my thinking that Alex might actually be ready for kindergarten as not submitting to my husband. When I showed him your comment, he encouraged me to respond because he didn't think this was a submission issue either. He can see my reasons for leaning towards Alex going to kindergarten, just like I can see his. I think what it comes down to is that I am with Alex all day and see how much he loves school-- and I mean love! He loves when I pack his snack, when I talk about what he will most likely do that day, and he loves playing with his friends there. Socially, he is ready. I probably should relay this to John more, so if there is anything I am guilty of-- it's that. Thank you for taking the time to leave this comment, I trust it was done in sisterly love.

Annie has left a new comment on your post "Happy Re-Adoption Day":
I can never quite understand why you do this. I'd have a hard time being serious myself about something that is just....what? Not even a formality. Is there some implication he is not actually your son?

In Michigan you can get a certificate, which is something like a birth certificate, of foreign birth - just so you have a certificate in English, I guess, but you have to pay a LOT, nearly $300 and I've just not gotten my heart behind it, I'm afraid. So much else to do with $300. Do you have to pay for this?

Annie, I really didn't see the point of readopting our children here in California until I realized how much easier having an American birth certificate is. It is not scrutinized by schools, or when the kids are enrolled in sports, and it takes the stress of losing their one and only Russian or Ukrainian birth certificate away since I can get their American birth certificate just by driving down to our local Department of Vital Records. Besides, a few of my children have already expressed a desire to adopt when they grow up-- and they will need original copies of their birth certificates-- and now they will all have access to those copies without traveling half way around the world to get them. For us, it just finalizes things all the more.

MoserUpdates has left a new comment on your post "He Can Hear!":

Hey Christine! It's been almost a year since we adopted Eli (went by way too fast!) We're thinking about our next adoption and I have a few questions for you regarding adopting a child out of birth order. Can you email me?


How wonderful that you are thinking of adopting again! How exciting! Adopting out of birth order is not as scary as it sounds. For us, it has worked well. What really confirmed in our heart that age doesn't really make a difference when adopting a child is when we thought of a child losing their chance at a family because they were not young enough--- like it is their fault. Adopting out of birth order has brought so much to our family-- that is why we are doing it again. :)

Holly said...
been there girl.
Hey, might you be willing to lead that as an ONLINE class? Maybe through a private yahoo group? I know some friends who have done some Beth Moore studies like that...they live all over the US.
I would really be interested.
Let me know what you think!


Holly, I love that idea! It is exciting to think of getting to know you better through doing a study together-- and believe me, this adoption study would inspire you! Is anyone else interested? You want to co-lead it with me?

Mama D.'s Dozen said...
I would LOVE to find a group of ladies to play BUNKO with ... or a group of ladies to do just about anything with ... a regular coffee night ... a scrapbooking night ... a card game night ...

Really needing some girlfriends in my new community ... on my little island. I don't know ANY ladies here between the ages of 35-55 (and I'm 48, but with young children still). The young grandmas at our church just love me ... but they don't have any kids left at home, and I still have two in 2nd grade. The young mama's also love me ... but I'm old enough to be their moms.

Glad you had a FUN evening!
Laurel :)

If you lived nearby, I would love to get together--- and do anything-- it wouldn't really matter to me. As for being in that awkward age group where you don't really fit in with the other women-- I can totally relate. Most women my age do not have kids as old as I do, so my friends all tend to be older.

Winnie said...
Christine,

You get tons of traffic to your blog. Would you be so kind to write something concerning the extension of HR213 - the Adoption Tax Credit Bill? It expires at the end of this year. A bloggy friend has created a good blog with lots of info on the who, what, when and why of the project.

http://adoptiontaxcredit.blogspot.com/

Thank you!
Winnie


Sorry I am late posting this-- better late then never-- right? The recent news about this bill is pretty awesome if it is true. I wonder if there is an income cap, and what happens to past credits.

16 blessings'mom said...
Christine, I am just sitting here looking at a few of my favorite blogs with my two little girls sitting on my lap. Charlotte Claire, three, said, "Mom, Dennis is so cute." So there you have it, from the mouth of babes....


How precious! Tell Charlotte what a cutie she is too!

Jean said...
Wonderful post! It is so comforting knowing it is never to late.

We are bring home our 8th and 9th and no one but us is excited about it. I wish others could see the joy in serving our Lord and loving the children.

There is no common sense anymore- and that's the way we like it! i actually feel free from the world- and it feels good!

(I loved sally's post, too)


Yes it is a joy--- certainly not always easy--- but most certainly freeing and joyous! BTW, I am excited for you!

Shari said...
Yes, I need that girlfriend time right about now! Were you serious when you asked me earlier this year about doing a women's retreat/get together? I would love it! Much love to you.

Yes, I am so serious. If anyone else is, please let me know. The get-together would be on the West Coast--- from Friday through Sunday. The possibilities are endless--- staying up late laughing and talking, sleeping in, going out to eat, strolling downtown or the beach, you name it-- it's bound to be fun!

Bethany said...
I want to know how you clean the cobwebs out of the corners of that room with the high ceilings. :)

I don't.

Tina in CT said...
Do you kids play musical beds?

Of course. Usually a few always end up in our bed.

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Molly said...

My husband and I have been looking for a study to do together and we've always wanted to learn more about adoption. We would be interested in participating if you did it online!

Tina in CT said...

I agree that you spend more time with your son and know him best. Also, the school supported his starting kindergarten in the fall.

As for Elizabeth's comments: This is 2010 and not 1900.

Your reasons for getting a Calif. birth certificate make good sense and thank you for the explanation.

Annie said...

Thanks for answering my question... I realized after I posted it that the tone sounded snippy somehow; I didn't mean for it to be. I get a chuckle out of giving people those Russian birth certificates, frankly, but you are right about adoption! I wish it didn't cost so much here, though. So it will have to wait.

I don't think adopting out of birth order is a big deal at all, however, I do think social services are leery because so many of the kids available domestically have been sexually or physically abused, and they might be prone to go and do likewise to someone younger. Our experiences of adopting out of birth order were really wonderful! No "issues" whatsoever. Because of that I actually asked a social worker why some agencies have problems with it, and she gave me that rationale.

Holly said...

Yes! I would be willing to co-lead...I would need to look over the material you have.
Is there an optimal number of participants?
As for the adoption tax refund...this is HUGE news....I wrote about it on my blog...no, I linked to Karin's blog and SHE wrote about it....on my post about Great Adoption News and an Embarrasing Moment. Oh my WORD was it ever embarrassing too! There is a link that you can read the actual legal jargon if you'd like. Also http://positivelyorphaned.org wrote about the tax REFUND and how this is the time to adopt...even two children simultaneously! My wheels are spinning for sure :)
I love positively orphaned...it is a site for parents whose children are HIV+. Someday. If the Lord allows it....that is my heart's desire! I have fallen in love with about 15 HIV+ kiddos in the Ukraine on Reece's Rainbow! I actually tried to pursue adopting 2 but it was only a month before the deployment and Andrea said no...we'd be traveling with Tony still in Iraq. FAST program!
Anyway...email me at hollymac828@yahoo.com or facebook message me..about the adoption bible study. I would LOVE to be part of that...we could encourage so many people who live all over the world doing in online!
Blessings,
Holly

Anonymous said...

Regarding re-adoption, I have done so. Someone raised a question that I think is interesting. The state issued birth certs as well as the us passport reflect that our children were born in another country. If our kids decide to adopt, would the country they wanted to adopt from ask for the Russian or Ukraine birth cert? Wouldn't surprise me and it will be really interesting to see how that would be handled some day. :)

PS: best to you in your new adoption journey.

Chris said...

Hi Christine,
Here is something for your next Digest. Can you recall doing a post sometime in the last 6 months or so about the birth mother's decision to give her child up for adoption. I thought it was you that did the post and I have tried finding it but haven't had any luck. I remember thinking how lovely it was and something I wanted to use myself. Thanks.
Chris

Sally- That Girl! said...

Christine, I am game for a retreat on the west coast! I will help you put something together if you want!

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