It takes time. To heal that is. And I am almost certain, that even when you think you have healed, the pain of losing a loved one never goes away. In my own sorrow, I forgot to consider how this profound loss in my life-- my earthly father passing away, would inevitably bring up thoughts in my adopted children. The loss they have experienced is just as painful.
As we gathered together for our usual devotional time, I ended with the question, "Is there anything that you fear?" One of my daughters bowed her head in embarrassment and admitted that she feared hearing sad songs because it made her think about her birth family. Immediately, I let her know that grieving her first family was perfectly okay and a natural thing to do. No matter the circumstances that resulted in her being put in an orphanage, I am certain that her mother and father left some good memories for my daughter to draw on in difficult times. I think she needed the reminder that it is okay to love and mourn the loss of loved ones even if they hurt you. That is how God made us, and I would be more concerned if she didn't grieve for them.
Yet again, God's word brought comfort to both of us and His constant love surpasses all understanding. We will both be okay.
We watched this video and quietly listened to the words as they echoed in our minds. Little by little, I am seeing those mustard seeds sprouting inside each of my children.
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I love this song... the video gave me chills~ Thanks for sharing!
This song was a comfort to me when my dad was sick and dying, I remember listening to it in my car and crying. It is so painful to be separated from those we love, even if only for a short time. Good reminder that God is right there and he does care. I'm glad your daughter could admit to you and to her sibs, her fear.
Grief, I have found, comes in waves. Sometimes the waves are far apart and sometimes they seem almost unbearable in frequency. There are "wave triggers" too, songs, pictures, seasons... Memories can be bittersweet, but what would we be without them?
Keeping you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
Love the song! It's a great song for what you and your daughter are dealing with. You are still in my prayers!
Grief does come in waves. You are very wise in how you deal with your children - you are doing such a great job!
I think you are right....
I'm with whichever of your girls fears the sad songs. Me, too. In fact, I pretty much steer away from all music, except the most uplifting or cheerful for that reason. I don't need my emotions jerked around!
I'd love to be a fly on the wall and see how you get all of your children to be serious during devotions. I have not achieved this.
Christine, you are such an inspiration to me. What a comfort you are to your children as you walk with them through those valleys of grief.
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