This December, we did the unthinkable.
John and I decided to tell the kids the truth about Santa. This was a decision that was made in an effort to focus on Jesus-- the reason for the season. The more and more that we have thought about it, the more we see Santa being more the focus during this time of year, and we wanted to make sure that Santa didn't steal the spotlight. It sure is hard to buy wrapping paper, gift tags, etc. without some reference to Santa-- but I tried. The kids will still get a few gifts and have a wonderful Christmas nonetheless-- but this year the kids will not be up at the crack of dawn snooping around the Christmas tree to see what the old man in the red suit brought them. Instead, we will get up early, but not too early, and have Cinnamon rolls compliments of Caleb who wants to treat his family to a sweet breakfast treat. Then we will exchange gifts, and attend church in honor of Jesus. Later, we will have family over for a nice dinner.
Alex is such a little cheese! He is always so happy, despite the rigorous physical therapy I continue to do with him many times a day. His gait has improved drastically and he hardly crosses his feet when he walks. The Orthopaedic Surgeon called and said that after talking to his colleagues, he felt that Alex should not have surgery to correct his hip. He thinks Alex is doing so well that he doesn't think that the surgery will improve his mobility much more-- so he wants to see him next year to reevaluate him. As he explained things a little more over the phone, I trust his judgement-- for now.
Little by little, I am doing inexpensive decorating as I find time, so when I came across this wall quote, I couldn't resist. The price was right too.
And it is so true!
In the last few days, I have given all the girls haircuts. Rachel, Annalyn, and Julia are the most drastic-- and Sveta's I messed up with thinning shears. Sveta and I joke about it, and I did her hair all crazy because she loves when I brush and blow dry her hair.
In the last few days, I have given all the girls haircuts. Rachel, Annalyn, and Julia are the most drastic-- and Sveta's I messed up with thinning shears. Sveta and I joke about it, and I did her hair all crazy because she loves when I brush and blow dry her hair.
Julia and Andrew love to play a game called Worms.
Look at Julia's hair before her haircut.
Look at her now!
I think it is so cute on her-- and to my dismay-- it makes her look older, I think.
Caleb conked out because not only did he have basketball practice today, but last night he stayed up with one of his friends way too late.
Guess who this is? Adam! Totally the opposite of his baby brother Dennis who is a total ham for the camera.
And then with Alex.
Doesn't Alex look like he is thinking-- Don't strangle me dude!
Shortly after this picture was taken, Dennis drove his little toy car into one of the presents. I was too lazy to rewrap it, so I just taped it the best I could. :)
Here is Alex's monkey face!
Here is Alex's monkey face!
Gotta love his cuteness!
30 inspiring thoughts:
I've never left a negative comment before but don't agree with taking away the joy, thrill and anticipation from a young child.
Looks like everyone is having a good vacation. Mine are home for 18 days and I just don't ever remember being that lucky. LOL
I love the haircuts. The girls all look so cute.
Alex and Dennis just look like best buds. That is wonderful that they are so close.
Hope you have a quiet day tomorrow. hee hee
Did you share the story of St. Nicholas with your children? He was the real Santa.
Great pictures!! Looks like everyone's having a great Christmas!
I read a great book that included some fantastic ideas on family traditions for Christmas. "Disciplines of a Godly Family" by Kent and Barbara Hughes. Don't let the word "discipline" scare you off. Brilliant book. We love our "santa-less" Christmas and have incorporated many new traditions. Our kids love it too. We have such a great reason to celebrate!
Merry Christmas. Very brave of you to share about Santa. I know how hard that must have been since Santa can be so fun, but I also know how important the truth is. Good job, we haven't done that but understand where you are coming from! I also love the pictures and haircuts!
I just wanted to let you know that we, meaning 7 siblings, were raised without being told Santa was "real". We were always told it was a legend about St Nicholas. We seemed to have all enjoyed Christmas.
We have raised our three children (now teenagers) the same way. The still love and enjoy Christmas but Christ comes first.
I am sometimes amazed at the amount of time, energy and emotion that goes into making sure kids believe in Santa. Often, the true meaning of Christmas get forgotten.
some people will be ready to hang me out to dry for this, but my kids will never be told there IS a santa.
i grew up with santa, and my faith is just fine. but a few years ago, i came across someone who knew of this family that taught their kids about santa - like MOST families who celebrate Christmas do with their young children - but the kids ended up not believing in Jesus.
at first i was like, "whatever."
but then i thought about it... REALLY thought about it.
aside from the fact that it's a lie & i want my kids to trust me, think about this: if we say there's a Santa, an Easter Bunny, a Tooth Fairy, all of which are invisible, what's to stop them equating a physically invisible God with those characters???
my kids will still get presents under the tree. they'll hunt for Easter eggs. they'll have a few dollars under their pillow when they lose their baby teeth. the problem i have is NOT about those traditions - i enjoyed them as a kid, and certainly want any kids i have to be able to enjoy them as well. i simply don't see the need to invent characters in order for them to enjoy those things. they can know that their parents put the gifts under the tree, hid the eggs, and slid money under their pillow. i really don't think they'll care who puts those things there, as long as they ARE there.
just my personal opinion... no judgment on those who choose otherwise. :-)
- michelle
Great pictures! I love the one of the girls.
I was thinking a similar thought this year about Christmas. It occurred to me that we traditionally read Twas the Night Before Christmas on Christmas Eve and I thought why don't we read a nativity story, so we went out to the book store this morning and I found a perfect one to read to my son. I think we'll keep up the Santa illusion though, not that he really understands it completely at 3 1/2. I agree with your sentiment though.
I never made a big deal out of Santa. We are celebrating Jesus' birthday. My kids go to Catholic school so it wasn't difficult. Have a great Christmas!
♥ I love vinyl lettering! I still have one that I need to put up and need an awesome place like you have! It's the perfect place! :)
Good for you - it doesn't take away any joy to know Santa is not real. My mom got a good laugh out of me - I was turning 3 (I'm a December baby) when I informed her that Santa was not real. He was in all the stores, etc and "the only person that could be everywhere was God therefore Santa was not real."
just read the comments left before i wrote mine.
Tina in CT - WHY does taking santa out of the equation have to mean taking away the joy & anticipation? why can't a kid still anticipate the presents knowing they were put there by their parents rather than a guy who wears a red suit? why can't they be joyful because Jesus was born rather than santa came down the chimney? taking away Christmas would be one thing... taking away "santa" is quite another.
- michelle
Love family time, and don't worry- we don't do Santa- hey, most of the world's population doesn't do Santa.....it's all good :)
I agree with Tina. I think it's sad that Alex will never get to experience "Santa". There are millions of people worldwide that manage to celebrate Jesus but still incorporate Santa into Christmas. You don't have to think of him as a fat man in a suit that sneaks into houses just to leave presents - but as one who tries to instill the joy of giving to others into each person...
Also... did you think to tell your kids not to tell other children there is no Santa? It would be a shame for your decision to ruin the joy of other children...
Most kids know by kindergarten or 1st grade that there is no Santa anyways. All the kids talk in elementary school so as soon as one kid figures it out, they tell everyone else. My family always had presents from Santa (even after they knew my brother and I didn't believe). It was more a tradition than anything but I don't think there's anything wrong with not "doing Santa". I probably won't when I have kids. Christmas is already so commercialized. No one seems to remember what we are celebrating! Love the pictures of the kids. The girls' hair is so cute. My mom used to cut my hair when I was little...although not as well as you! Hope you and your family have a wonderful Christmas!!
I wasn't raised thinking Santa brought us presents and we never taught our kids about Santa either. I always anticipated Christmas just as much as any kid and I never had to experience the devastation that I hear some kids experience when they find out he's not real. I think you did the right thing in being honest with your kids, you won't regret it. Santa is NOT what brings joy to Christmas...well, he shouldn't be anyway. I am amazed that there are people who think that Christmas is spoiled for a child without he/she believing in Santa. Isn't the story of Jesus coming to this world to save us from our sin reason enough to be joyful? And as children, my sisters and I still got excited about the gifts under the tree, we shook them, tried to guess their contents...and we knew they were from Mom and Dad. :) Alex and Denis won't miss a thing , trust me I didn't!
By the way, great haircuts!
To answer your question Melissa:
My daughter had a few gifts from Santa and her stocking filled from Santa under the tree on Christmas morning. On Christmas Eve, after a full day of skiing, we opened gifts from friends and that's when she received her gifts from her parents. Santa brought one special gift and a few small ones but her main gifts were from her father and me. We did not want Santa to get all the credit. The Christmas she was 5, her father made her a beautiful wooden dollhouse and there was no way that Santa was getting credit for that. We continuted this tradition all through her growing up years.
Part of living in America and Christmas is our tradition of Santa Claus. Because my grandfather was from Holland, I also put my wooden shoes out on St. Nicholas Eve and found them filled with the gold foil chocolate coins and an orange the next morning.
My daughter believed in Santa, the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy until the spring she was in 3rd grade. One weekend when she was visiting my mother, she asked my mother and my mother told her the truth. I was really annoyed with my mother for doing that as I figured we'd get one more Christmas with her believing in Santa Claus and it was NOT her place to do that as the grandmother.
Kids believe in Santa for what, maybe 6 or 7 years and Jesus their whole lives. Why would you take that away from them. You are so selfish but act so Holy.
The older my kids get the worse I get cutting their hair. We can do Daniel's with the clippers, he just gets a buzz cut. Annabeth I've been taking to the beauty shop with me. Jonathan - he just looks funny. I'll probably start sending him to the barber with Mark.
Merry Christmas! You have a lovely family. I'm so glad that there are wonderful families that adopt children into loving homes!
I hope you really enjoy the many blessing you have this Christmas season!
Mary, I want to know what's so selfish about not wanting to lie to your children. How do you teach them the importance of being honest, and then tell them some big fat man in a red suit comes down your chimney and brings them presents. And what about the disappointment many suffer when they realize they believed a lie for all those years. I hate to break it to ya, but I think the parents are the ones who get the most enjoyment out of the whole Santa thing. Again, I think I got just as excited as any kid at Christmas time. My own kids say they don't feel they've missed out on anything by always knowing the truth.
Merry Christmas!!!!
Your family is beautiful and always makes me smile.
We are so very loud too!
Love the quote! Do you mind sharing where you purchased it?
We don't and haven't done Santa. We have wonderful, fun, and joy filled Christmases. I can't even imagine trying to explain to our African children about why Santa didn't visit them in Ghana. As someone posted up thread most of the world doesn't "Do Santa".
Have a blessed day celebrating our Lord's Birth!
you sure are gifted with scissors, Christine!
that ia really cut from rachel
everyone has a different opinion. who are we to judge others??? Christine is doing what is right for her family! lets build eachother up and not knock others down!
it's been awhile! beautiful family christine!! and my are you talented in giving haircuts - they look great!!!
oh and by the way...we don't do santa with our kids either and never have. we fill their stockings but they know it's from mommy and daddy trust me, my kids are just fine and love christmas and celebrating Jesus' birthday complete with presents, cake and all!! we have the tradition of giving each child 3 gifts (from us, they get more from family)and then little fun stuff in their stockings. we don't hide santa from them but they know that it is someone dressed up and that mommy and daddy are the real santa and they think that is even better.
that's us and our family and YOU Christine have the right to do what YOU think is best for yours - no one should critique you on that at all. they joy of christmas should come from celebrating Christ whether or not you choose to do santa.
Christine - just wanted to say I am so happy there are still women like YOU raising spouses for our children. :)
Your children are SO giving and loving, and joyful - you're not perfect, but you ARE doing a fantastic job as a mom!
And regarding Santa - there's NOTHING wrong with not doing Santa. CHRISTmas has nothing to do with Santa, he's just stealing the show from Jesus - the reason we celebrate Dec 25th!
We *did Santa this year and I'm sort of torn on if we should keep it up next year or not - he DID end up stealing the show from Jesus and that hurts me. :/
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