Saturday, January 3, 2009

Digest 11

Lacia said...
I hope Dennis did well at his surgery today. I'll be looking for an update.Also, I wanted to let you know that everytime I see a pomegranate, I think of you guys! I used to eat them alot as a kid, but not so much these days. I saw a recipe on tv for a yummy looking pomegranate vinaigrette. You take 1 1/2 cups of pomegranate seeds, 1/4 cup olive oil, 1/2 tsp of lemon and you blend in a blender until pureed. Strain through a fine sieve and season with salt and pepper. YUM! Also, I'm not sure how you seed the pomegranates, but this show I watched showed a great way to do it. Get a large bowl filled with water, quarter the pomegranate and immerse in water and pull apart while under the water. The seeds sink to the bottom and the skin floats to the top! Easy, and keeps your fingers clean too!

Awww, thanks Lacia. You are not the first to tell me this. It is neat to know that we are thought of every time pomegranates are eaten. As for the dressing, it sounds yummy! I just learned the floating trick from my brother-in-law's girlfriend.

Anonymous said...
i had BRAIN SURGERY two weeks ago today and i'm still recovering so i'm especially praying for the little guy! my "you'll be home tomorrow" turned into nearly a week, i have complications including some minor brain damage. three incisions, one of which is still incredibly painful. saw the neurosurgeon yesterday and all is okay, just gonna take awhile to adjust to life with an implanted device in my brain. :-P best of luck - will be checking back for an update on Dennis!- michellewashington, dc

Thanks you so much for praying for Dennis. Hope you are doing better. You are an amazing woman!

Anonymous said...
Hi,I started following your blog through the Cornish's blog since before you went to get Dennis! Your family is awesome! I love the new family picture. I do have to say it is hard for me to understand adoptive families giving up there adoptive child. You don't give up a child by birth if there are difficulties. Isn't the commitment the same? Aren't we suppose to love our children unconditionally, like God loves us.

Thanks for taking the time to comment. You are right in that it is hard to understand disruption. Before adopting through a disruption myself and working with so many families, I didn't understand it either. Yes, we are supposed to love our children unconditionally just like God loves us...... but we are not God, and we can't do everything He does nor do we have an infinite amount of love to give. For some of us, the biggest act of love is acknowledging that we can't give a child everything we know deep down that they deserve so we set them free.

Tami said...
So glad you are home. Looking forward to more updates:)I nominated you for an award:)Please visit my blog to pick it up.

Thank you Tami. I appreciate your encouragement... really.

Tina in CT said...
What good news that all went so well for Dennis with his surgery. What exactly did they do? Do you now have a few months off before the next surgery?Love seeing how his little legs and feet have porked up after being home since the summer.

Dennis had his cleft palate repaired on December 18th. He still has stitches that should come out on their own. His next check-up is on January 6th. His next major, major surgery will be March 6th..... this gives him just enough time to recuperate and gain back the pound he lost since his surgery. You are right about his legs----- he has gone from 18 pounds to 25 pounds in less than six months.

Debbie B said...
Your posts regarding these children that need homes and loving parents make me want to adopt again sooner then we plan. I have a question though. What are your thoughts on adopting out of birth order? I feel that our daughters age will always hold us back from adopting an older child for many years.

Like you, adoption is something near and dear to my heart. I have to remember that my plan or the world's plans are not always His plans and rarely are, and so it is very common to feel the urge to add another beautiful child to your family. We have adopted out of birth order four times, and we have been blessed each time. If you have specific questions, please feel free to ask.
Susan said...
I sent a gift to Reece's Rainbow yesterday, in honor of my own two young cousins who came home from Ukraine, and asked that it be used in Ukraine wherever the need was greatest. I hope it will help a child (or children) find their forever family...and I pray that this precious little boy's family finds him very soon.

Thank you Susan. Alexsey is running out of time. He will soon be transferred to an orphanage that leaves little hope for the children there. I am so frustrated that money stands between willing families and children who need a home. May more people like you donate to help bring home more children this year. I know that the generosity of others made it possible for us to bring Dennis home. I am still very thankful to those that helped out financially and I know that your gift will be much appreciated.

QuEEn oF tHe cAstLe said...
Is there a way to find out MORE info on a child featured in this montage???

You can click here, and here.

Amy Waldron said...
I posted
this video that you shared on my blog as well! Thank you!Be Blessed,Amy (Honestly)

Keep spreading the word!

Joy said...
I have a great recipe for a simple ice cream cake homemade.*one large box of ice cream sandwiches. *one large aluminum pan lined with plastic wrap up the sides*cool whip topping Spread a layer of cool whip in the bottom of the pan layer in the sandwiches cool whip in between. Then put into the freezer. Flip over onto a platter and ease out using the plastic wrap.Happy Birthday,Joy

Now you tell me!

Denise said...
Happy Birthday! Why do your kids have to be 13 to drink soda??

They don't have to be thirteen to drink soda every once in a while, but they do have to be thirteen to be able to have one can of soda a day with whatever meal they choose. It is kind of like a rite of passage. Some kids get to start wearing make-up, some get cell phones, some even get to start dating....... as for my kids, they graduate to being able to drink one soda a day! And believe me, this is a big privilege that the kids look forward too.

MamaPoRuski said...
I almost thought you brought home child #12 when I saw the header! LOL
!

I wish!

Washer Mom Val said...
Dear Heavenly Father - please keep this family in your prayers. Please give good health to all, especially little Dennis! Amen

Thank you for all of your prayers! Not just Val, but to all of you! Dennis is doing much better.

Amber said...
Question for digest: I love the tie blankets. I have been looking at fleece in the fabric stores. It seems like most fleece sells for about $14 per yard. Which would be one expensive blanket. Where did you get the fleece for the blankets?

I got the fleece at Joann's craft store when it was on sale for $2.99 and $3.49 a yard. Each blanket was around 5 yards making each blanket around $17.00. Make sure you double knot the ties--- we learned the hard way and had to retie them all.

melonie thompson said...
Christine,Care to share the how too of making the bacon wrap jalapenos!!! They look so good lol Melonie

They are so easy. Cut a jalapeno length wise, clean out the seeds, fill with cream cheese, and wrap with a piece of raw bacon. Cook at 400 degrees until crispy.

Kristin said...
I am not trying to be mean but are you honestly surprised by the child's reaction? The child should be taught to be nice but you are used to seeing Dennis everyday--not his eye but Dennis. I have to admit that when you first posted Dennis' picture on FRUA, I thought it was a cruel joke. That is the main reason that I came to your blogsite and have since come to look forward to your posts. I think your kids are all adorable but I can understand his reaction but not his words upon meeting Dennis. This is one of the main reasons that I feel you owe it to Dennis to do as much cosmically as possible. Keep up the good work. Kristin

Yes, I am surprised at how this child continued on and on with his rudeness and total disrespect for what I was trying to tell him. I am used to the stares and initial comments that can be kind of mean and rude, but until now all the other children have seemed to have a change of heart once I politely informed them about Dennis. I am sorry that you thought that I was playing a cruel joke when I excitedly posted a picture of my new son---- I had never kept his condition a secret and think he is one beautiful little boy!

As far as owing it to Dennis to do as much cosmetically as possible, I disagree with that. Of course I will do the surgeries that are necessary to give him a not so shocking appearance, and that are beneficial to his health, but I refuse to put him through so much pain and suffering for the sake of vanity alone. If he makes other people uncomfortable because of the way he looks, I think it is their problem, not his. Unless you have a child who has undergone numerous surgeries with more to come, it is hard to imagine how loving and teaching your child that they are beautiful no matter what would actually take precedence over any cosmetic surgery. There is such a thing as too many surgeries and Dennis has now had two in Ukraine, and two here, with a very major cosmetic one scheduled in March.

Alexandra Mikaela - Awareness Warrior said...
Mrs Reed! Mrs Reed! Look, you made the list! You're officially one of the top mom bloggers!!! I was led to this link by MckMom (she was on it too) and I saw you there!!! Congratulations!"#47 Smiles and Trials Devoted mom of 11, Christine is the epitome of an unselfish and loving parent. Spending her life focusing on adoption of children that need not just any home, but her home. Watching Dennis grow and all the ways the family has helped him, leaves us somewhere between wonder and amazement. This is a family that has made 2008 worth blogging."
Here is the link.

Suzanne said...
You've been nominated!!!!!Go to momdot.com and you will see that you are among the top 50 mom blogs of 2008!!!They have wonderful things to say about you.

Thanks for telling me Alexandra and Suzanne! You mean I didn't get number one? Just kidding. I am very honored and blushing just a bit. Who would've thunk? :)

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Our Own Little Nest said...

I love these "Digests"!! Great idea! I greatly admire your family and while I'm not sure that I'm cut out to be a mother of such a large family, a part of me thinks it would be so amazing! Yet I need to remember that God knows what is best of us and follow His plan for us. ;)

I strongly agree with how you responded to and handle questions/comments about Dennis's appearance. I really think you are RIGHT ON in your stance! Keep standing strong!

And thanks for the very nice comments on my blog, by the way. Happy New Year!

Marie said...

I am a newbee on the blog but you and your family amaze me and I was up way to late watching your videos and reading your exciting stories. I am totally in love with Rachel and Dennis, don't get me wrong they're all so beautiful and perfect but those 2 really stick out. I have a stepson with down syndrome and can totally relate to rude and ignorant people. So RUDE! Well just wanted to say what an awesome mother and father you and your husband are and your children are so very blessed.

Payne's said...

Christine I just wanted to say Happy New Year to you and your family! You have a beautiful family - awesome picture!

www.payne-familyadventures.blogspot.com

Denise said...

I agree with one of the woman who said that you owe it to Dennis help him correct the appearance of his eye. Why are you waiting till he is old enough to make his own decision, when you know that he would want it done. No one likes to get stared at, he doesn't deserve that. Help him while he is young and will not remember it. He is a tough kid! Do it for Dennis.

Anonymous said...

I think Christine has it handled well for all that feel they should give their advice. Go give your advice to someone that needs it.

Anonymous said...

I think Christine has it handled well for all that feel they should give their advice. Go give your advice to someone that needs it.

:)De said...

Happy New Year Christine and family.

Peace,
:)De

Sarah said...

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe the surgery Dennis is having in March is to correct his eye (for health reasons) and then in a couple of years they were going to work on the scar on the other side of his face??

I don't remember which post she said this in, however; I'm sure you can archive it Denise.

Connie said...

Happy New Year to you all :-) Lots of love coming your way from this other set of Reeds! (through the murkiness of the still broken internet... ah well...)

Hevel Cohen said...

Thanks for visiting my cooking blog!

I've found your blog through reading about Daniel and became very interested as I am an adoptee who had two younger brothers adopted from the former Soviet Union. Unfortunatelly my adoption was a mess, which was fortunately dissolved when I was 17.

Reading your blog I found it amusing and encouraging that early bed time is used by your family for discipline as well! It has worked really well for us the last 6 years.

Expat Mom said...

Interesting that some people figured that the little boy`s reaction should have been expected. I think that children are going to be initially curious and very small children might say something, but by 4-5 they should certainly be able to keep their reactions to themselves!

One thing about Dennis, he is never going to have much in the way of problems with others because he has ten big brothers and sisters to protect him!

Annie said...

Thanks so much for the jalepeno recipe; I'll try it!

As regards the little boy...I've thought a lot about this. I think maybe he was reacting to something that startled and scared him. And no one has taught him courtesy (let alone kindness), but his continued reaction probably was a plea (that he didn't even understand) for an explanation. I was startled by Dennis' appearance when I first saw his photo. I think it would take some getting used to. So one sees DENNIS and not the eye. And it would have terrified me as a little girl - I would have wanted to know WHY? Would it happen to me? Was it an accident, an illness? Would it get better? Will he die from it? etc. When I was in fourth grade a girl in the school I attended had cancer and underwent chemo and was bald. This was so terrifying to me that I was really traumatized the whole year. Only later did I understand anything - cancer, chemo.... She died in the spring which made it worse, of course. I had insomnia, bad dreams, was obsessed by fear, couldn't sleep, was terrified by all I didn't understand...and never once did I say a thing to anyone, ask a question; I think I only figured out the cancer and chemo in later years. I HAD learned that you don't comment or refer to someone's appearance or personal situation. I was polite! But, I am not so sure that reticence served me well. It is all very difficult. That's for sure.

mommytoalot said...

Great digests..
I just want you to know I left an award over at my blog for you.
I know you've gotten tonnes..but you are a huge inspiration to me.
hugs

Wife to the Rockstar said...

What happened to John's post the "Jitter Frets"?

Tereasa said...

Christine, You are a woman of grace and strength. Your children are blessed to have you!

Rakel said...

I think you're right about Dennis's surgeries, you should let him have the ones that he needs, to fix his cleft palate and help him to not have as "skocking" appearance because of his eye. I'm pretty sure he will be thankful for that as he gets older. I'm sure you teach all your children that they are beautiful just the way they are, my parents thought me that to and I was one very much loved child, and I still am. But it is still very hard to take those rude comments and it's hard to belive that you are indeed beautiful when other people seem to be thinking the opposite. However, I think you guys are right about at least waiting with those "small" things like his chest, nose and ears. I have to admit that I don't notice anything "wrong" with those parts, at least nothing that would be shocking.

Oh, and I think Dennis is one blessed and beautiful boy!

I'm not sure if you ever got my email about those pictures, anyway, there are before/after surgeries pictures here: www.malmo-mas.blog.is/album/

I will continue to pray for you guys.

Anonymous said...

I love following your blog. Your children are all beautiful and I would never be able to figure out who is biological and who is adopted. You are a great mom and I know you will make the right decisions regarding Denis' eye or other cosmetic surgeries. God will guide you if you just trust him. "All things work together for good to them that love God."

I came across this website one day and thought you may like to follow the family. Their youngest daughter has brain cancer, but her faith in God is amazing. The baby wasn't expected to live long, but has survived for over a year more than the doctors originally said. The website address is www.olneyfamilyonline.com.

Continue trusting God in all that you do. Your faith is unwaivering.

BoufMom9 said...

I love what you wrote about Dennis and the way he looks. Just beautiful. That is what will give him the strength to deal with anything that life with through at him.

princessmama said...

Christine,
I have a question about adopting out of birth order, well maybe not a super specific one. When we talk about adoption certain members of our extended family emphasise their feelings that we should definitely not adopt any child older than our oldest son. They feel that he would have extreme difficulty with such a situation, and that it would not be fair to him.

I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand I understand that it would seem "unfair" or...I don't know how to express what I'm thinking, but hopefully you get the gist. But, also, God knows more than we can ever see, and if we feel Him leading us to adopt a specific child then I know He will cover it.

I don't feel it would be such a problem adopting out of birth order with younger and middle children. I wonder why this is? Maybe because they already have older and younger siblings and a little shuffling is not going to hurt anybody? I don't know anything about adoption first hand, just the little reading we have done.

Anyway, just wondering if you have any wisdom or know of any families who have adopted older children. My oldest is eight, and I don't know when we will have the resources to go forward with adoption. I just want to be as ready as possible for the decisions we will have to make when the time comes.

Thank you for your time. And for what it's worth: I agree with you wholeheartedly about Dennis. :-)

Susie said...

I was wondering if any of your adopted children had their names changed when they were adopted. Do the adoption officals care if the child's name is changed?

Allison said...

I just found your blog, and was curious on your family's full story. How many/which of your children were adopted? What are their special needs? At what point did you decide to start adopting, and what made you come to that decision?

One thing is obvious... all the children are very happy!

mmc said...

Is there anything more that we can do to find Alexsey a home? He was one of my "favorites" and I keep thinking about him. I cannot in good conscience stand by and let him get put in another orphanage/institution. I'm 20 so I'm not old enough to adopt him myself. I will keep praying and hopefully be able to donate too! Thank you for raising awareness about him and all the other fabulous RR kids. I just can't get his face out of my head... I wish I could go there and take care of him.

-Molly