Saturday, October 11, 2008

Good-bye Anon

Recently, I have had a commenter finally cross the line on my blog. While I maintain that I will always accept all comments anonymous or not, I have asked repeatedly that people make sure that they disagree in a respectful way. I personally, can handle the comments, and I love how God always manages to shine His glory through all of the sin. Thank you Anon for helping me to prove my point. This recent poll was to show without having anyone feel condemned that there is a great need to help families to learn how to feel differently about their adopted children when unlovable characteristics of that child make it very hard. I think of you as an adopted child. I could of very easily taken great offense to your comments, but instead I have chosen to pray for you and love you even when you are very unlovable. But just like a child needs consequences, so do you. I will no longer let your comments stay on my blog--- I will no longer let you bash wonderful, gracious, loving, readers of this blog. I do say, "Shame on you for the name calling."

I am asking that while I think you get great enjoyment from reading my blog (why else would you read), please refrain from visiting Smiles and Trials. I think you have some jealousy issues to deal with....... I was always taught that people who went around saying horrible things about people for no real reason were insecure about themselves. You consistently say that you are speaking on behalf of other readers who are offended by a question that was never intended to be offensive yet no one else has come forward. Please stop playing a martyr and go and shine your light so that you can be an example for adoptive families who don't have it together as well as you so obviously do.

I am removing your comments, but I do hope that you have a wonderful weekend loving on your children.

30 comments:

AZmomto8 said...

I am sorry you have has issues with someone, your blog is always the sweetest and kindest I read, so I don't understand this at all. So sorry you had to deal with it.

sarahgoeken said...

Christine
I just wanted to leave a little comment to say how sorry i am that certain peole feel the nned to be unkind. I love reading your blog and hope that this "anon" person will not stop you from being honest and truthfulll in your writings. May God bless you and your family.

Carla said...

I believe you did the right thing. I enjoy coming over here to your blog. I do like the way you keep it real. I may be calling on you for advice when we bring our 5yo home. I already know she has some issues, and even though I am reading up on attachment issues like crazy, I am still scared. Our faith is in the Lord. He brought us to her, and he will enable us. Blessings to you.

Carla, (a mom who showers with her 2 & 4yo sons.)

Tina in CT said...

Very well said and I hope Anon doesn't reappear.

Shari said...

Very well said! Have you put the block on the blog that stops anonymous from commenting?

Zac and Jenny said...

I love you and your blog... just the way you are. Don't change!

Tanya and Don said...

Yikes! What is wrong with people and I agree they need to move on. Why visit a blog you don't like??? I put comments on my blog on moderate because I couldn't figure out how to delete nasty posts. I want to know how to do it!

Renata said...

Well done Christine! I think anon was getting a bit out of control.
I hope you enjoy your weekend.

Mary said...

Good for you, Christine! I think you've handled this whole anon situation really well, and I'm really impressed with how level-headed you've been. I know that if someone posted mean comments on my blog I'd be tempted to make my blog private or something. Keep on keeping it real! I love your blog and check it several times a day to see if it's been updated :-)

Trouwbottom said...

Woooo Hoooo Christine!!!!! You go girl!

Mom Elaine said...

Dear Dotchie, I am so sorry that annon insists on the negative comments. I do believe she is jealous of you. I am so proud of you and the way you write your blog. Always honest, real and from the heart.
Love, Mom

Tracey said...

Christine, the grace with which you have handled the situation with the anonymous commenter is truly admirable. YOUR light shines through, daily.

I appreciate having real, true, honest posts to read in your blog. Thank you for commenting on my blog. My daughter is now home and is recovering nicely from her surgery.

Have a wonderful, blessed day.
Tracey

creative gal said...

I am very sorry that you have encountered a negative person. Such a shame. THANK YOU for being willing to pray for them and I will add them to my prayers as well. God is always faithful!

Mary & Michael said...

Christine, sorry about the negative comments you receive. I love reading your posts and checking in on your family. I think you are such an inspiration. It's real life, somedays are good, somedays not so good, but your honesty is refreshing and wonderful.

Matt and Carla Morgan said...

Good grief! Nasty blog commenters are such a bummer. You handled yourself gracefully. Good for you.

cm

Michelle said...

bravo, christine!

handled so well. and now i'll feel more comfortable reading your blog - i've recently avoided it because of all the junk going on in the comments. :-)

- michelle

Annie said...

I'm just sorry you removed the comments! I'd love to see what got you so riled - you are ordinarily pretty darned even-tempered!

Noah and Josh's Mom said...

Oh people are just insane! I have had a few readers do the rude comment thing and I usually get angry and throw them off my blog. :) I am sorry you had issues, anyone who reads this blog would know where your heart is. You are a true testament to Gods love.

Kim

Amy said...

Christine,
I just wanted to say I absolutely love your blog! I'm sorry some of you readers are so critical. You just keep on doing what you're doing (being a wonderful loving mom)and the rest of us will keep on enjoying reading your blog.:)
Amy

Kelsey said...

I've read that a person's blog is like an extension of that person's living room. That said, you shouldn't have people commenting your blog that are only here to insult you.
Good for you for standing up for yourself. You seem like a great mom and woman, you shouldn't have to deal with "haters".

Salzwedel Family said...

So sorry...I had to remove the anonymous comments on my blog too. It's funny how bold people feel when they can remain anonymous. Keep on, keepin' on...people like your blog just the way it is.

Jamey & Catherine said...

I feel like I am repeating what others have already said, but I love your blog and I am sorry you had to deal with mean comments and hope they don't continue in future. Its Thanksgiving Weekend here, (Canada) and I wanted to also wish you and your family a HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! You are a great encouragement to a lot of people! Thanks!

living4him5 said...

Hi Christine,

I am so sorry this happened to you too. I'm reading this same issue on so many blogs I follow. I thought your post nailed it on the head.

Your blog is a joy to read. =)

Hugs,
Amy

janiece said...

What a shame some people have to find the negative. I think you handled it quite well Christine. I love the honesty that you discuss issues and that honesty helps others find solutions and their own personal answers. Please continue with that honesty. It means alot.

mom 2 many said...

It is so sad when people who don't know you, or at least I guess they don't, feel they need to bash you!
It is a shame they can't respect you and the fact that this is *your* blog. How would they feel if others left nasty comments on their blog?? I guess parents are teaching their children the *Golden Rule* these days.
Or, the old saying, *If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all*!!!

Great post by you, though!
Blessings,
Carla

Connie said...

I participate in a number of discussion groups on-line. General rule of thumb is to speak to someone as if they were sitting right in front of you. Good manners does translate to the internet. And it makes all levels of conversation possible.

You do not have to agree with someone in order to share knowledge and learn from one another.

Mike and Christie said...

good decision

Kathy said...

Anon reminds me of one of my children who for some reason loves negative attention even though we'd rather give him positive attention and do take every opportunity to do that. I think she (?) would just say rude things to get all the attention from the rest of us.

Anonymous said...

Well said. Hopefully Anon will learn to not be so judgemental.

Christine said...

To the previous Anon,

You are pricisely why I won't eliminate Anonymous comments. Thank you for commenting. You made my day.

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