Friday, September 12, 2008

I Finally Had My Cup of Coffee

God is always there. Do you know that? Just when He knows I really need something---boom---He goes and provides it. Like today. Ever since we moved, I have been sort of isolated from friends. Not that I am alone, because I have my husband and children, and I talk on the phone with friends and family and fellow adoptive parents--- but it is just not the same. I have been in desperate need of having some time out for myself with a friend-- another woman that I could just sit down with and make eye contact with as we chit chat over a cup of coffee. I have so been yearning for this. I can't exactly explain why except maybe that this kind of interaction helps me to feel like I still have a little part of my life that I can claim for myself and take a moment to recharge my battery. For other moms it might be going out and having a manicure or going and seeing a chick-flick with their girlfriend, but for me it is enjoying a cup of coffee and being able to cit-chat about anything. God knew that we both needed that today.

Well tonight I finally had my cup of coffee at Starbucks. And it was perfect. Just last week a fellow adoptive mom sent Dennis and I something in the mail. It was so very thoughtful and in it she included a Starbucks gift card that she hoped I could go and enjoy sometime soon. Her thoughtfulness made me cry as I realized that she understood my need to have this type of interaction with another mom. Well that other mom--- a fellow adoptive mom is one who I must say is the most inspiring woman around. Not only was she there for me when I was first looking into adoption and ultimately was the one who encouraged me to just do it, but I later helped her to adopt her newest daughter through a disruption a little over a year ago. Out of great respect for her, I will not openly share her story, but trust me this woman is amazing. She has been through so many ups and downs in the past year and yet she keeps on plugging along----her faith remains grounded and constant. I am so glad that we went out for coffee tonight. I am so glad that we both took this time. We agreed that this is something we both want to do at least twice a month--- and I want to make that commitment. I can't begin to tell you how energized I feel after having come back from our evening out--- and it has nothing to do with the coffee. There is just something about two sisters in Christ sharing about each others lives and the ups and downs of motherhood.

Tomorrow we are celebrating two of the kids' birthdays. Can you guess which ones?

20 comments:

Chelley said...

Ahhh Me time! I did that this week with going to get my hair done!! Hadnt done it since Feb!



"Happy Birthday Jonny and Anna"

Shannon said...

My husband is really great about that. Since I stay at home with three little ones, he is really about me going and doing something with friends or by myself, even if it is a bath with no one watching or trying to join me. And I think one reason is that he stayed at home with our oldest for 18 months and realizes that sometimes you need that me time.
I have just resently joined a MOPS group and being able to sit with other moms of preschoolers for a couple of hours with someone else watching our preschoolers is great!

Martha said...

Dennis and .... Rachel?

Connie said...

I am so glad that you got out with your friend! It is a great sanity break. :-)

Heather said...

I'm so glad you had some time with a dear friend. What a blessing. Friends add so much to our lives.

Shoot, I have no idea whose birthdays are here. I know that Caleb just had one, though;)

Wife to the Rockstar said...

Isn't it awesome how God connects us??

Rachel said...

I'm glad you got to share a much needed time out with a friend. I think a goal to meet with her twice a month is good because I find that if I don't plan things like that, they just don't happen.

Julie said...

That sounds so nice... All of my close friend have all moved out of state (and one lost her battle with cancer), and then we moved to another town and had to leave our church (Joe now works on Sunday, and takes our only vehicle, so we haven't been able to find a new church either :( ) ... I miss the fellowship with other ladies. We only ever get together with Joe's family. (Mine live across the state, and out of the country).

*sigh*

Priscilla said...

I know exactly what you mean. My need is the same as yours. Coffee with a friend and chit-chat! I miss my dear friend, Amy who lives in Western Canada now. Martha and Rachel are both my sisters and have commented here today I noticed. I love visiting with them...but it is not easy since they both live a good 45 minute drive away.

Also since I have started graduate studies, it is difficult to carve out time. I am working on a paper today and just allowed myself the luxury of reading some blogs!

Major Mom said...

Glad you took a moment for yourself. All girls need one!

Annie said...

How nice for you..... I'm glad to think of you doing that.

Maybe my blog time is like that a little.. For some reason I don't feel as guilty spending time blogging (well, I can still answer the phone and so forth), as I do actually taking TIME away from not only work, but family.

Rhonda said...

Sounds like you had a wonderful time!! We all need that every now and then!

Tina in CT said...

Glad you got to go out to meet a friend at Starbucks over coffee.

If you were closer, I'd love to meet you (but I'd have tea as I don't like coffee).

Denise said...

It is nice to have time away with adult conversation with someone who gets you.I do this often with my cousin althouh Most times its at her house.I am mom of soon to be 7 i know what you mean.Love the babes and the Husband but to get away and talk with a friend and enjoy a cup of coffee is very relaxing.I am happy you have decided to do this for yourself.Its nice to have the Me time.

Liz said...

Being an Air Force wife, I am an experienced mover. I have found it takes about three months to begin discovering those women that will be my close friends. Most of the time I am surprised - most of my close friends tend to be quite opposite from me and I could not survive without my church family and support!

Last year was the first time I have ever made friends with women at my daughter's school and we meet regularly at a coffee shop while kids are in school (they drink the coffee and I drink my water - one of the many quirks of being the Mormon gal).

I think we will be staying in place for two-three more years before I have to go through that process again - always exciting but nerve-racking at the same time.

I'm glad you were able to relax and visit with another woman who inspires you!

Erica said...

If there is ever anyone that deserves/needs some "me" time, it is definitely you! I am so glad that you got some time to replenish your well.


Erica

June Berger said...

Amen to sister time.

16 blessings'mom said...

Reading this post made me wish we didn't live across the country from each other...I would love to sit down and have a cup of coffee with you. Blogging and all is great, but can't take the place of real, face-to-face fellowship...

Shari said...

I am so glad you got to go out! I hope it was refreshing and re-charged your battery! :)

andrea said...

i really loved this post...you stated many of the feelings i have had...sometimes i wonder if i'm the only mom that desires and craves going out and talking with friends. i love being a mommy but just taking off the mommy hat for a few hours is so energizing! enjoy the birthday parties! isn't that icing delish! i also make icing with whipping cream and instant pudding with half the milk, it isn't as sweet but another family fav...see you!

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