John and I flew to Russia to meet our daughters in May of 2005 for the first time. We were very thankful and felt very blessed to be invited to take a tour of their orphanage in Ivanovo. We had heard that some families were not even allowed to see where their children slept let alone video tape the whole orphanage, so I consider this a priceless memory that I am so grateful to have.
In the beginning of the tour we walked into an entry way that has a wall lined with coat closets for each of the kids. Above them are pictures of the kids that I was very interested in because Anna and Sveta might be in them. Sure enough they were, and later I came back and took stills of them so I could have a picture of a picture of them when they were younger.
Soon, we walked into the playroom of Anna's and Sveta's group. We were surprised to see so many toys for the children. I found it kind of old fashioned that our translator told us "This corner is only for girls," when she pointed to a bunch of doll toys.
The children were eating where we later found out was where they not only ate, but also had group learning time. I can still remember many of the children's names. Artom, Yulia, Sergei, Natasha, Misha, and Angelika. Do you know the child left behind syndrome you feel when you connect with another child and wish that you could adopt them too? Well, I felt that way about Artom and Angelika, and to this day I wonder how they are doing. I know that Artom, a precious little boy with a missing hand, was adopted by a Spanish couple, but I don't know what ever happened to Angelika.
Though I didn't show it, I remember how seeing all of those little beds lined up next to each other in that little room made me very emotional. To think that my Sveta would be going to sleep there tonight without me to tuck her in, was very hard. It broke my heart thinking about how all those beds would soon be filled with little boys and girls come bedtime who had no one to kiss them goodnight.
But on the other hand, I was very thankful that my girls were lucky enough to be in such a good orphanage. It could have been much worse.
Later, they took us to a place where they kept their pet parrot. A pet parrot. Can you believe it? Sveta told us that his name was Mashinka.
We took a quick look at the bathroom, but honestly, the smell was pretty bad and so we didn't stay long.
In one of the hallways was a book shelf filled with crafts that each of the kids had made. It was amazing to see how artistic these children were. Just look at the little figurines and paintings!
As we walked out of their group's area, we passed a mini kitchen that we told was where the children got to role play what it was like to live in a family with a mom and dad. They wanted the children to learn what it was like to sit down at the table and have a meal with their family.
I was impressed that these caretakers wanted to provide this experience to these children, but again it made me come to the realization that many of these children's only opportunity to feel what it is like to be part of a family is through this role playing. How heartbreaking.
We left the older children's group to visit the other side of the detski dom where the younger children are housed. Again, I was surprised to see how many pets they had. Maybe those pets were there for therapeutic reasons to help the kids learn how to love and care for a living thing.
As we finished our tour, John shows us what the children were watching on television. It was interesting to say the least.
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What a nice picture of your family! They look like a fun bunch. You are truly blessed.
jen
Thanks for that little glimpse inside the doors of a Russian orphanage, very interesting.
I remember that orphanage too. I been there with Alla. The caretakers ther are very nice, even some are very old, but still working there with kids. I remember giving Sveta a teddy bear that keep teling " I love you thiiiiiis much". :-)
I planning to go back there when i will go visit my family.
Wow... that is a lot of pets. The detsky dom where my kids resided just had a dog that lived outside. When we were in Russia, I never really saw anyone walking dogs. There were a lot of strays and my kids talk about wild animals they encountered when they were in Russia, but never any indoor pets.
Katya's orphanage had a big furry gentle black sheep dog, "Masha" that all the children loved. Masha got to come inside too.
I understand what you mean about the left behind syndrome. There are a couple of little faces that I think of often.
Loving the new photo of the children!!
Karen will love this as her daughter is Yulia. Also, I am in touch with the family that adopted Sergei, and I will alert her to this wonderful tour.
How nice to not only have seen it but to have been able to record it and have that for her.
What a wonderful video. I was actually really surprised myself to see all the toys and animals. Still doesn't take place of a goodnight kiss though, does it?
Love the new header picture!... And it's nice being able to place a name with each kid. Very helpful!
I just watched this with Ilya. He told me that Shuya is "much better". This, to my mind is clearly not true! But he insists. I have noticed this in other children, as well. THEIR Detski Dom is far superior! That strikes me as a rather sweet and also healthy attitude.
Anna is so small. My 9 year old twins (10 in a week) are extremely small for their age, weighing in at around 45 pounds, but Anna looks even smaller. She reminds me of my bwins (30 pound 6-1/2 year olds.)
I enjoyed reading of your experience too.
I love the new header! I have been surprised at how many pets there are in the orphanages. There are always cats! (V. practical...) I've seen dogs, rabbits, fish, guinea pigs, birds...
I've got "left behind syndrome", too...and I haven't left!
I did enjoy the tour very much. Brought back many good memories of our trip to Detski Dom #5. I can't wait to share this with Julia after school!
I experienced the "left behind" syndrome with regards to Julia's friend, Nastya. I was told that she was not "adoptable" as her father was visiting regularly and wants her back.
christine, i found *this* blog of yours not too long ago. sorry if i didn't make my presence felt here sooner!
I am jealous. I wish this was Baby home #2 That is where Kevin is from. They did let us in for a few minutes to look around quickly when the kids were out of the room. In Rostov we didn't even get that much. We only got to see the hallway and the doctors office. It is sad when we cant even give our children a picture of where they grew up.
What a precious gift to have been given. I am haunted by the children that are there waiting...Ugghhhh.
As far as my memories go, I think the pets and plants were a part of all Soviet children's institutions as they were supposed to develop a connection to nature and responsibility or something like that. It is confirmed by my Gorky-born SIL.
Reading your blog, I keep wondering if your daughters speak Russian with each other at all? My two brothers from Russia still do and they are now 20 and 22.
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